Researchers made experiment with three puppies. These three puppies are kept in a closed cradle. The food and water were given through two tubes. The three teams take care of these 3 puppies. The teams were advised to do following: The first team opened the cradle every two hours, hug and pat on the dog; the second team opened the next cradle, beat the dog lightly; the third team was advised to not open the cradle. After one month, cradles were opened. The dog in first cradle came out with joy. The next dog came out with fear and anger. The dog in third cradle, what a pity! It was dead.
Hey guys, what do you learn from this research? Although we have basic needs like food, water and shelter, if there is no relationship with family and friends, we can’t live. Let us see how to build relationships better.
Electro Cardio Gram (ECG) is used to measure the function of heart. That measurement is very important to check whether human is alive or not. I am introducing another important factor ECG here to keep our relationship alive.
1. E-Empathy:
Consider this picture. Two persons are seeing the ball, one is from left side and another is from right. If you ask about this picture, the person in left side says that the color of the ball is Green and right side person says Blue color. They are saying their perspectives. If conflicts occur here, each says that I am correct. To avoid conflicts, we have to realize other person’s feelings. This is basic for building relationship. This is called Empathy. It is standing on other person’s shoes and thinking about the issue on other’s perspective.
Empathy is seeing with the eyes of another, listening with the ears of another and feeling with the heart of another.
One child is continuously crying. Mother made a lot to stop crying. But the child did not stop crying. Nearby child took the rubber from his mouth and put on crying child’s mouth. The child stopped crying and felt happy. This is Empathy. In this case, mother has to realize child’s perspective.
On wedding day evening, wife was waiting for husband to go dinner. But husband didn’t come due to his work. When he came home, what will happen? Conflicts occur between them. How to solve this issue? Wife has to stand on his husband’s position and realize the situation. Then only they can celebrate the wedding day happily. Empathy is an art. If we can able to understand other’s feelings, we can overcome any difficult situation.
2. C-Care:
My husband considers my dreams and goals. That’s why he sent me to attend ZTWS from Ramnad and took care of son. Now I became a provisional Zone Trainer. We are feeling blessed and secured. This is care.
* Care is about understanding other’s desires and goals.
* Helping to Reach their Goals.
* Supporting and Encouraging Others.
* Making them Confident.
To maintain good relationship with family, friends and in work place, we have to protect, guide, consider, and look after all.
3. G-Give & Get:
When you get into the bus, one seat is available, other person also coming for that seat, if you leave for him, he may give that seat for you. Small adjustments give happiness in life.
* Give appreciations to your family members and friends every day.
* Give respect to other’s feelings.
* Give your love and be kind.
* Give your smile to every one.
By giving love, appreciation and respect in relationship, we can get more from others. Two boys were playing together. One boy had a crayons and another had chocolates. They decided to exchange these crayons and chocolates. The boy kept one crayon aside and gave the rest. Another boy gave all chocolates to him. That night, boy who gave all chocolates slept peacefully. Another boy could not sleep and doubted another that he had hidden chocolates.
Give your 100% in your relationship and get 200% happiness. Maintain ECG in your life to keep alive your relationship with your family and friends and celebrate a life forever.